Yep, I just used the word crappy, should that make the list as well?
It’s crazy that we’ve lived in Idaho now for almost 3 years and yet lately so much of my life is consumed by being online and I’ve made some amazing friends with blogging as my outlet. Recently there was a photo posted on the Facebook page of another blogger I follow, Life with Levi that was meant to be encouraging to other moms but instead sparked a huge debate that some even took to some pretty nasty levels.
Recently it seems that us moms especially have been bombarded with what has been deemed the Mommy Wars issues. (I know most of you saw the Times cover on breastfeeding somewhat recently, right?) I’m getting a little tired of so many people saying that this or that makes you the perfect mom but I hate to tell you guys, no such thing truly exists.
So why is it that I’m now putting myself out there and into the “crappy” mom category? Let’s see, I’m a crappy mom because…
- I used disposable diapers on my now toddler until she was 8 or 9 months old.
- I now use cloth diapers which is outside the “norm” for some people and they just can’t grasp the concept.
- When Talia got a bad rash I didn’t give up on cloth diapers and instead treated her and the diapers while keeping her in cloth throughout the entire process.
- I’ve been told that I’m wasteful for using cloth diapers because I use extra water to do the laundry. (Yet, apparently in their minds it isn’t wasteful to toss things such as diapers after one use and fill our landfills with something that not only contains toxic chemicals but never fully breaks down. I could go on forever about that but it’s not really the focus of this post..)
- We co-slept until Talia was about 18 months old.
- We don’t plan to co-sleep with the new baby. (Funny how you can be judged as doing poorly for being on both ends of the spectrum. In this case it’s because I’m being unfair by letting our first co-sleep and not the second.)
- Some nights we don’t eat dinner until 8pm or so.
- When we go to other people’s houses I don’t usually allow Talia to eat junk. (I guess this somehow makes me not only look like a Nazi mom but also excludes her from what the other kids are doing.)
- I don’t jump up and comfort her immediately when she falls or bumps her head. I wait for her to let me know that she actually needs some comforting. (Oh how it irritates me when other people immediately freak out over my kid when she’s not really even hurt and it causes a big crying match.)
- I breastfed for only a month then pumped for 6 more before supplementing with formula.
- We haven’t had her vaccinated since she was 6 months old.
- I let her brush her own teeth and don’t make her use toothpaste.
- I get down to her level to talk to her, especially if she’s being naughty rather than resort to physical discipline of making her look up to my level and pay attention.
- I am not adamant about using cleaning products to keep our house clean and when I do, I don’t use mainstream name brands but rather a natural organic cleaner.
- I don’t bathe her every night but rather just 3-4 times a week.
- I let her eat her food how she pleases and don’t fuss if she makes a mess or chooses to eat with her hands.
- There has been an occasion where hubby and I both thought the other had buckled Talia into the car seat and we drove somewhere (a short distance) only to find she wasn’t buckled in at all.
- I let my toddler play alone and entertain herself.
- I let her watch movies and listen to any music she would like. (Yes, everything from Jack Johnson to The Classic Crime, Dubstep to pretty clean rap.)
- I don’t use a high chair cover or shopping cart cover when we go out. I feel they’re totally unnecessary.
- I used a stroller for a long time. Not that it got used a lot, but I did.
- I carry Talia in a Boba. (I get told this is causing ‘undue stress’ on my small frame and spoiling her at almost 22 months. You’re kidding, right?)
- I give my child too much affection.
- I’m a stay at home mom.
- I was induced with Talia and also got an epidural.
- I don’t like to use medicines or other unnecessary treatments or rush her to the doctor upon the first sign of vomiting, or even the second, especially without first trying some natural healing methods and giving it some time.
- Most days I don’t make her wear clothes and she just runs around the house in her cloth diaper. (and usually shoes, whether they are hers, mine or daddy’s. LOL)
- I’m rarely caught up on laundry or dishes because I value the time I spend with my family more.
- We don’t push religion on her.