When my daughter was born my husband and I were renting a very small 1 bedroom house. When I say very small I mean maybe 500 sq. feet of space. We had a queen bed in our room and there was 1 foot of space between the bed and closet and maybe 3 feet of space from the bed to wall on the other side, leaving 2 sides of the bed flush against the wall.
The lone bathroom in the house was through our room and the door opened towards the bedroom meaning that there was really no room for a crib. For the first month or two we used the giant pregnancy pillow that my aunt had bought for me and made it into a makeshift nest area for our baby. It worked great until she started rolling over and wanting to move around more. we eventually moved her into our bed and using rolled up receiving blankets and our boppy pillow, made a nest like area in between my hubby and I. It worked like a charm and we are lucky to say that our baby slept through the night from the start.
Skip ahead to 6 months old. We managed to find a 3 bedroom townhouse to rent and saw it as a HUGE upgrade to about 1500 sq. feet. I knew immediately I wanted to make a room up for our little ladybug and finally be able to plan out that dream nursery that mommies think about so often during pregnancy. I bought her a crib and set it up in her very own room with just a few other things. I was excited to have a little breathing room for everybody but was a bit sad to not be able to snuggle me little girl to sleep every night.
My hubby so kindly takes the night shift every night. Doesn’t sound like much work but by the time we had moved little bug was majorly teething and no longer slept through the night. He had gotten so used to our bug being within arm’s reach and me breastfeeding that he was less than thrilled to have to go downstairs, get a bottle, back upstairs into her room, feed her, then back to our room for bed. Needless to say, she didn’t last in her own room more than a night or two. We left her bed in her room hoping to ease her into nap times and then eventually over night and made a bed area for her on the floor next to our own bed. (which isn’t even on a frame, so we were still close to her.)
I decided that the best thing to do was to move her bed into our room. I converted her crib into the toddler setup meaning that on one side there is just a rail alongside the mattress to keep it in place rather than the whole side piece of the crib. I then moved the room around so that her bed is against the wall and also against our bed. It basically made her bed an extension of ours and even happens to be the same height as our bed on no frame.
We love this set up. Our little girl is now 15 months old and it’s so nice to be able to go into our room and snuggle up to put her to bed. She understands which part is her bed and which belongs to Mommy & Daddy. She’s had a few setback and is still getting a bottle some nights so we have a mini fridge set up in our room (also within arm’s reach of the bed) so this specific set up is just what works for us and more specifically, for our daughter’s needs.
Too often people judge the parenting styles or choices that we (or others) have made but the joy of being a parent is that I can still do things the way I feel is right for my child. I love that we chose to breastfeed as long as we could, granted I would’ve preferred to go longer, but nature didn’t agree. I will never put another child of mine in disposable diapers now that I’ve fallen in love with fluff. I love that my hubby made a job for himself that allows him to be home so much and that our bug has come to enjoy having us both around. I love that I get to share my bed, my blankets, and my snuggles with the most adorable little darling I’ve ever known.